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Week 1- Submit Week 2- Proven Week 3- Persistence Week 4- Free


Have you ever had a pet like a squirrel or hamster that would eat out of your hand? For an animal to trust you and do that means that they have submitted to your care. That is one form of submit. However, for one human to submit to another is quite another story. Not only is trust involved but also a sense of power and control. It is the power and control that causes the human problem. Intelligent beings are often swayed by some kind of emotional instability. Emotions are not always trustworthy. Submit with discretion, but do it wisely!


This word is so many times misunderstood in how it is used and defined. Its definitions are divided into three each transitive and intransitive verb forms. The second definition is the one most often thought of and used as in to yield to the action, control or power of another. However, it is also used to present or refer to others for consideration or a decision. It can also be used in the sense of to suggest or propose an opinion. Most often users think of it in the sense of submissive or obedience to another. That is a most limited usage. Fear not submitting, but do fear absolute control without recourse!


To submit something or to someone is not the same as to resign oneself to an undesirable state or knuckle under to a tyrant. The latter are unpleasant conditions for which one may not have a choice. They are not the same as giving one’s consent to an action or decision of another intelligent person. To resign oneself to an undesirable state or knuckle under to a tyrant are signs of negative conditions of enforced power. To submit infers at least some respect for the one who has chosen to submit. To knuckle under is not a good sign, but to submit gracefully is a high form of art!


When we submit gracefully, it can have great influence. This means that we can accommodate others with a right attitude. It also shows that we can conform if needed to the thinking of others. It does not mean that we give up any of our principles but that we can defer our opinions when it is appropriate. This allows others to offer or submit their thoughts with openness. This will impact how our ideas and opinions can be received by those we interface with. Don’t submit fearfully, but with confidence and openness!


I cannot imagine a relationship in which submit is not an integral part. Relationship means that two people have agreed to act in a civil manner and understand that some give and take is involved. If submit is not a part of a relationship, then is it really a relationship? Without one or the other submitting at appropriate times, then it becomes an entanglement that smacks of dictatorship or some kind of slavery. A relationship in which only one submits (and I use that word loosely) is a denial of God-given rights. Don’t make undue demands, but do submit in loving kindness!

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This day and word has proven to be tacky! Sometimes a word becomes valid by what has been experienced. As this day began, it was normal enough, but as it wore on, things happened and it proved to be abnormal. Sometimes we find words that are like that as we begin to endure a flow of events, they prove to be other than normal. We cannot assume that something will be proven correct. We experience it and then know if we approve. Be cautious about assuming something, allow it to be proven!


We like things that have been proven to be facts. That is the core definition of proven. This past participle of the intransitive verb prove is most often used as an adjective. It gives the sense of validation or genuineness to the word it modifies. Many times it has the capacity to make something official or irrefutable. When we use a proven method to do something, we can be sure of the results. Having trouble with results, then switch to a proven method!


Many times we tend to be cautious about what we do. We test things; the water, the climate, new associations. We do this because we want proof that our actions will not be in vain or wasted. To validate something is a good thing. It prevents unwelcome surprises. Those who rush into activities without some means of testing or approving the results are taking a high risk. Irrational risk taking could prove to be dangerous. Test it and remove the doubt!


What happens when we get in a hurry and don’t allow an action to be validated? It is a sure way for us to experience a negative impact of a foolish action. When we use proven techniques or methods, we will experience a higher degree of success in what we do. It is then a good idea if we are to use a new way of doing something to test it in a way that will have the least negative impact. If the action proves to be unsafe or ineffective, we can see this with the least amount of harm. The expression: “fools rush in” has a lot of meaning; so be careful and “test the waters” before acting!


When you jump into a relationship that “seems” right without giving it time to develop will always produce results that are not expected. Proven results always comes with time. A good relationship will always develop when it is given ample time for discovery and testing. Wisdom tells us that we need to establish criteria and boundaries for what the relationship should be. This requires patience and foresight. Those untested relationships will most always prove to be bad decisions. The adage: “Haste makes waste,” gains greater value when it comes to avoiding sticky relationships that hang on. Give your relationships plenty of time to grow and blossom!

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One way to define success is to be persistent. When you have a goal or dream, there are and will be many challenges. To realize success in reaching that desired end result takes an attitude of persistence. As we look at our word for this week, we will examine some of the characteristics of persistence and also the desired end result of being persistent. If you envision success in reaching a desired goal, persistence must be included. Lack persistence, then failure is assured!


The definition of a word can tell us what it literally means, but nothing about the visual impressions we have of it. The formative language for persistence is French; however, its definitions are simple and without much complexity. Its three primary meanings are the act of persisting, the quality of being persistent and the continuing effect after the removal of a base cause. Let’s demonstrate: after the removal of its energy source “persistence of vision causes visual impressions to continue upon the retina for a brief time.” How’s that? Bad habits persist with ease, but good habits require us to have tenacity and steadfastness!


The signposts of persistence are very descriptive. Steadfastness, tenacity, grit and stamina are some positive words that are attached to persistence. You can also add pluck and stamina to that list. The ability to hang on and forge ahead despite constant challenges are additional ways to think about how our word is used. These signs require that one be able to endure defeats and setbacks knowing that despite them, success can be achieved. No drive, no success. Know drive, know that you can succeed!


Success comes to those who have persistence. Want success? Learn the characteristics of being persistent. Enduring continuance is one of the signs of those who succeed. They are tenacious. There is a constancy and indefatigability in the makeup of those who will be successful. Study well-known and successful people and you will find these and similar qualities. They resolve to accomplish a goal. They do not stop until it is obtained. Idleness is not a trait of success, but determination and patience are!


The value of persistence in a relationship is difficult to determine. How does a car function without tires? It is persistence that keeps the relationship healthy and moving. Without persistence, the relationship will stagnate and eventually die. It is persistence by the parties in the relationship that keep it alive and with a sense of endurance. No relationship is healthy if it is based upon idleness and indifference. A relationship with resolution and stamina will be healthy and grow with time. Negative motion and emotions can kill your relationship; positive motion and emotions will keep it alive and thriving!

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Our word this week is simple. Four letters and two of those duplicates hide a whole host of meanings. Free is simple to spell and learn as a word, but it is a word that hides a multitude of understandings in the way it is defined. To learn about this word, we will look at some synonyms, words that are similar in use and definition. By doing this, we may be able to grasp a better understanding of it use and our grasp of its varied meanings. Not clear about free; then learn what is or is not free”


Free is the basic concept behind many of the things we do, say and cherish in our day. How then do we define this word of multiple facets? As an adjective, it has 26 different shades of meaning plus 3 as an adverb. Free is a worker word. We must study it carefully to understand all that it encompasses. The ability to move without restriction, without confinement, without external control and a sense of spontaneity are all subtle variations within the meaning of this word. It touches the simplest action we do as well as the most complex. Whatever you do, don’t be hindered, be free”


Symptoms and signs that relate to free are interesting. To understand this, we will look at some related words. Free generally means to set loose from any sort of restraint, entanglement, burden, etc. Release is more or less interchangeable with free but gives indication of direction. With liberate the emphasis is a state of liberty into which one is given admission. With emancipate we see a physical freedom from bondage or slavery or a mental release from social conventions. Discharge will imply having a permit to leave that which confines or restrains. Each of these words gives us a different sign or symptom of the meaning of free. So don’t struggle with it, get a release!


We often hear the expression “free is good.” That statement may or may not always be true. Why? Free always has an impact in whatever sense that it is used. If it is a “setting loose from confinement, literally or figuratively” in this sense, the confinement, (whatever it was) was a negative thing as in a prisoner being set free. In the sense of free i.e. without cost, gratis, for nothing, we must then wonder if it is free what is its real value? Many times we associate value with a cost. Then if “free is good” what is its associated value? The real impact of free and its meaning then will come to us in its associated value. If it is free and its associated value is high to us then it has great value, but if it is free and we see little associated value then is it good? No free, no good. Know free, know good!


A free relationship? Does that really sound right? When we think of our relationships, free takes on a new meaning. Our associations with others necessarily encompass some kind of obligation. However, within our relationships, there can be freedom. We can relax expectations and allow others to be themselves. We can work on removing barriers that hinder freedom. Associations that are free of any unnecessary bondage or social conventions induce a form of freedom from stress. Relationships with baggage are not free. To liberate is freedom at its best!

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